Hi everyone! I am the next stop for the Firsts blog tour, I hope you’ve liked the other tour stops. Firsts was a book that I really enjoyed, so you can read my book review about that here!
Today I have Laurie E. Flynn with a guest post that I’m really excited about. First though, I thought I’d give you some information on the book and share the book trailer. There will also be a giveaway at the end!
Author: Laurie E. Flynn
ABOUT THE BOOK
In the vein of Easy A, an honest and refreshing young adult novel about sex, love, and high school.
Seventeen-year-old Mercedes Ayres has an open-door policy when it comes to her bedroom, but only if the guy fulfills a specific criteria: he has to be a virgin. Mercedes lets the boys get their awkward fumbling first times over with, and all she asks in return is that they give their girlfriends the perfect first time-the kind Mercedes never had herself.
Keeping what goes on in her bedroom a secret has been easy – so far. Her mother isn’t home nearly enough to know about Mercedes’ extracurricular activities, and her uber-religious best friend, Angela, won’t even say the word “sex” until she gets married. But Mercedes doesn’t bank on Angela’s boyfriend finding out about her services and wanting a turn – or on Zach, who likes her for who she is instead of what she can do in bed.
When Mercedes’ perfect system falls apart, she has to find a way to salvage her own reputation -and figure out where her heart really belongs in the process. Funny, smart, and true-to-life, Firsts is a one-of-a-kind young adult novel about growing up.
I chose this topic for Laurie to write on:
Topic: The double standard there is for males versus females when it comes to sex, what you think about them, and myths there are when it comes to sex and females.
When I wrote Firsts, the double standard that exists for males versus females when it comes to sex was one of the themes on the forefront of my mind. When a guy sleeps with more than one girl, he might get a reputation as a player or a bad boy. More than likely, he’ll get commended by his friends. Yes, girls may be wary of getting into a relationship with him, but maybe a relationship isn’t what he wants anyway. And people are okay with that. He’s hooking up, learning what he likes, finding himself. Eventually, he’ll settle down and fall in love.
But a girl in the same situation? She doesn’t get called a player. She gets called a slut or a whore, one-syllable grenades. She gets called four-letter words that just might end up scrawled on her locker in permanent marker. She hears whispered insults and people talking behind her back. She gets disapproving looks from other girls and leers from boys. She gets lectures. She gets people asking questions about why she’s just hooking up instead of trying to find a boyfriend, how she can possibly be with a guy for one night or one week without getting attached. She’s the butt of rumors and jokes. Maybe a relationship isn’t what she wants anyway either, but people aren’t okay with that. Everything she’s doing will make it so that nobody will ever take her seriously. Nobody will want her.
This is the attitude I wanted to expose for all of its blazing hypocrisy when I wrote Firsts. From the first page, we find out that Mercedes is a sexually active teenage girl. She doesn’t have a boyfriend, nor does she want one. When the truth about what she has been doing with the virgins gets out, she becomes a victim of intense hatred and slut-shaming. But what about the guys who sought her out? They incur their girlfriends’ wrath, but nobody is writing on their lockers with permanent marker. Nobody is calling them four-letter words. Nobody is physically assaulting them in the hall at school. Nobody does to them anything close to what happens to Mercedes. It takes two to have sex, but the blame is heaped solely on Mercedes’ shoulders.
Yes, some of what Mercedes does is wrong. But the boys are to blame, too. With one exception, they’re the ones who sought her out. It was important to me that this book was written from the perspective of a teenage girl who is far from a virgin, a girl for whom sex is a physical act, more science than intimacy. Maybe there was a girl like Mercedes at your high school. Maybe you were or are a girl like Mercedes. Too often, this girl is called that girl, like some kind of warning. I wanted—needed—to give Mercedes her own story. Because she’s not that girl. She’s a person figuring stuff out, and the only four-letter word she should be called is a girl, plain and simple.
Laurie brought up some great points about the double standards, you can let me know what you think in the comments and if you read Firsts. 🙂
If you want to win a copy of Firsts, courtesy of St. Martin’s Griffin, you can enter my giveaway here!
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Laurie Elizabeth Flynn went to school for journalism and later worked as a model, a job that took her overseas to Tokyo,
Athens, and Paris. She lives in London, Ontario, with her husband and her Chihuahua.